Imagine for a moment a young child with the gift of gab. He chats away, boisterously and assertively to anyone who will listen. Over dinner, in the car, on lines at airports, he is a nonstop communicator of ideas and stories.
Now, imagine the adults in his life perceive this quality as somewhat irritating. They consistently tell him that his behavior is disruptive, annoying, distracting in school and risky. He is often asked to quiet down and to “be good.”
Next, imagine another scenario. Envision the adults in this child’s life telling him that his outgoing ways will no doubt make him a leader some day. Imagine his ideas being validated and his opinions taken seriously. He is complimented on how effortlessly he communicates with people of all ages.
The ways in which parents view a child’s behavior can greatly influence the relationship. Sometimes a new perspective can make all the difference. Be it with a minor issue we are having with our children or an all out crisis, perspective matters.
Recent advances in science support that perspective matters physically as well. The brain has literally been shown to undergo changes when we alter our thoughts. If modifying our thoughts can ultimately affect how we connect with our children, imagine the possibilities.
Regardless of how many programs, schools or venues of support we create for children, they will be of little use unless we work to guide and educate parents as well. This site is here to help parents discover new ways of thinking. Featuring current articles, helpful links, timely information and supportive coaching, the goal is to help parents better connect with their children.
A Society Who Values its Children Must Cherish Their Parents.
John Bowlby
